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2020.09.20 00:14 hoser2112 9-19 COVID-19 Update for Santa Clara County

The county reported 138 new cases today, and I count 130 of those falling within the past 7 days. The county reported no new deaths. We are now in the Red Tier. The state monitoring chart is updated weekly, the site currently lists a daily COVID-19 case per 100k rate of 7.2 (for the week ending 9/5), with an adjusted case rate of 6.0 (there's an adjustment factor depending on how many tests per 100k you do compared against the state average, for Santa Clara's testing rate that adjustment factor is currently 0.832).
City Total Cases New Cases Added Today Total Past 7 Days Daily Average per 100K
San Jose 13345 86 542 7.54
Other 821 14 17
Gilroy 1441 5 81 20.84
Sunnyvale 909 5 38 3.56
Mountain View 547 4 27 4.76
Morgan Hill 588 3 28 9.12
Campbell 335 2 18 6.05
Milpitas 516 2 22 4.06
Santa Clara 928 2 27 3.06
Los Altos 117 1 6 2.80
Cupertino 111 0 7 1.65
Los Altos Hills 31 0 1 1.68
Los Gatos 163 0 3 1.39
Monte Sereno 19 0 0 0.00
Saratoga 107 0 3 1.39
Palo Alto 274 -1 15 3.20

ZIP Total Cases New Cases Added Today Total Past 7 Days Daily Average per 100K
95111 1324 15 58 13.28
95122 1540 12 65 16.07
95127 1336 10 59 12.83
95116 1361 9 52 13.15
95126 445 7 16 6.35
95136 589 7 35 10.50
95020 1406 5 80 17.90
95110 433 4 27 19.09
95112 874 4 20 4.68
95123 705 4 28 5.90
94086 298 3 12 3.45
95037 572 3 28 7.74
95121 441 3 24 9.00
94040 242 2 15 5.98
95008 327 2 17 5.22
95035 515 2 22 4.05
95130 80 2 4 3.84
94022 74 1 4 2.95
94041 118 1 4 3.97
94043 178 1 6 2.72
94087 198 1 8 2.00
94089 149 1 11 7.04
95032 125 1 1 0.54
95046 106 1 6 14.23
95050 347 1 9 3.26
95051 347 1 13 3.20
95117 457 1 17 8.21
95118 262 1 12 5.27
95125 481 1 15 4.00
95128 368 1 10 3.79
95131 226 1 9 4.12
95133 352 1 11 5.47
95138 165 1 9 6.19
95148 532 1 13 3.80
95119 58 1 3 4.09
94024 72 0 2 1.19
94085 256 0 6 3.63
94301 87 0 8 6.65
94304 28 0 0 0.00
95014 109 0 7 1.60
95054 228 0 5 2.94
95070 104 0 3 1.37
95120 172 0 2 0.76
95124 257 0 11 3.07
95132 301 0 12 4.10
95134 144 0 2 1.05
95135 76 0 6 3.83
95139 55 0 1 1.96
95113 55 0 5 36.84
95002 32 0 0 0.00
94305 22 0 3 2.79
94306 112 -1 7 3.63
95030 47 -1 0 0.00
95129 134 -1 8 2.87
The growth of new cases, eliminating the most recent 2 days and then comparing the previous 7 days to the 7 days before that, we end up with 0.92. If we do the same, but eliminate the most recent 5 days, we end up with 0.76. In all cases, a number over 1 means the number of new cases per day is growing, a number less than 1 means the number of new cases per day is shrinking.
The daily average case rate per 100k over the past 7 days (excluding the most recent three days) is 6.67. The adjusted case rate is 5.55.
Note that the date a case is reported on is the date of the first test, not when the results were reported, so the data for the last 5+ days is incomplete and cases will continue to be added to those dates.
Case Date Cases New Cases Added Today
Aug 16 71 0
Aug 17 182 0
Aug 18 269 0
Aug 19 172 0
Aug 20 163 0
Aug 21 165 0
Aug 22 138 0
Aug 23 59 0
Aug 24 155 0
Aug 25 290 0
Aug 26 226 0
Aug 27 201 -1
Aug 28 190 0
Aug 29 139 0
Aug 30 58 0
Aug 31 145 0
Sep 1 231 0
Sep 2 225 0
Sep 3 171 0
Sep 4 173 1
Sep 5 90 0
Sep 6 45 0
Sep 7 41 0
Sep 8 184 0
Sep 9 203 0
Sep 10 146 0
Sep 11 132 0
Sep 12 83 -1
Sep 13 31 1
Sep 14 110 15
Sep 15 214 21
Sep 16 114 52
Sep 17 42 41
Sep 18 1 1

Lab report, no surprises, almost all results are back within 5 days. The average test positive rate over the past 7 days (excluding the most recent three days) is 2.33%.
Positive Negative New Positive Tests Today New Negative Tests Today Test Positive Rate
Aug 20 184 6852 0 0 2.62%
Aug 21 196 7013 0 0 2.72%
Aug 22 157 3597 0 0 4.18%
Aug 23 76 1681 0 0 4.33%
Aug 24 175 7040 0 0 2.43%
Aug 25 331 7989 0 3 3.98%
Aug 26 266 8374 0 13 3.08%
Aug 27 231 7731 0 10 2.90%
Aug 28 221 7618 -1 7 2.82%
Aug 29 158 3630 0 0 4.17%
Aug 30 62 1882 0 0 3.19%
Aug 31 170 6530 0 11 2.54%
Sep 1 257 8156 0 0 3.05%
Sep 2 262 8271 0 2 3.07%
Sep 3 189 7527 0 1 2.45%
Sep 4 201 6848 0 1 2.85%
Sep 5 100 2925 0 1 3.31%
Sep 6 56 1898 0 1 2.87%
Sep 7 52 1944 0 2 2.61%
Sep 8 203 10828 0 3 1.84%
Sep 9 231 9251 0 5 2.44%
Sep 10 173 8040 0 2 2.11%
Sep 11 155 7619 0 28 1.99%
Sep 12 104 2895 0 28 3.47%
Sep 13 37 1809 1 23 2.00%
Sep 14 129 6189 20 326 2.04%
Sep 15 233 8765 22 1223 2.59%
Sep 16 129 5526 53 1617 2.28%
Sep 17 53 4113 47 3822 1.27%
Sep 18 1 389 1 389 0.26%

Hospitalizations, using the state dashboard there are 39 cases in the ICU, up 2, and 114 total cases hospitalized, unchanged. Using the county dashboard, there are 37 cases in the ICU, up 1, 114 total cases hospitalized, up 5, and 23 new admissions.
Long term care facilities, no updates to the dashboard today.
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2020.09.20 00:05 KikiSez I was Scammed and now I'm paying for it

I am on mobile so my formatting may be off. Also, please be kind, I'm normally a lurker, not a poster.
I was scammed by the company Yinglian Trading Co., Ltd. At least, this is the company name under the support section in paypal. Please be cautious if you order anything from this company as the package took months to arrive and was almost past the dispute date by the time I received it. So this all started when I came across a site claiming to be selling swim trainers for babies at a discount as the "business" claimed to be closing. The site seemed professional and offered paypal as a payment method so I assumed that if I was scammed I could always contest it. After paying $35+ on the item, I had to wait 3 months for the package, only to open it and find a pink plastic pool tube that could be bought at the local dollar store for $2. I immediately went to the website I had ordered from to see if there was a mistake, but it had already been shut down, as well as the customer support email on my receipt. Next I contacted PayPal customer support and sent proof of the scam that had just happened using screenshots of the receipt, shutdown website, item I received, and the sellers bio in paypal where the company states to not report to paypal as they'll freeze the account and make it impossible to issue a refund as a scare tactic. After denying the sellers offer of refunding $14, I was offered a full refund today, but only on the condition that I return the item they shipped me by the 25th, which will cost me at least $36 to ship. I have yet to find a way to contest this latest offer, so I've just contacted customer support again.
Any ideas on how I can get my money back? If not at least more people can be aware of the company and its practices.
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2020.09.19 23:54 city-of-stars Post-Tournament Thread: St Louis Rapid & Blitz 2020

Final Standings
Notable Games
[pgn] [Event "St. Louis Rapid & Blitz"] [Site " INT"] [Date "2020.09.16"] [EventDate "2020.09.15"] [Round "4"] [Result "1-0"] [White "Magnus Carlsen"] [Black "Levon Aronian"] [ECO "D97"] [WhiteElo "2863"] [BlackElo "2773"] [PlyCount "67"]
  1. d4 Nf6 2. c4 g6 3. Nc3 d5 4. Nf3 Bg7 5. Qb3 dxc4 6. Qxc4 O-O 7. e4 a6 8. e5 b5 9. Qb3 Ng4 10. h3 Nh6 11. Bd3 Be6 12. d5 Nd7 13. Bb1 Bf5 14. Bxh6 Bxh6 15. Bxf5 gxf5 16. O-O e6 17. dxe6 Nc5 18. exf7+ Rxf7 19. Qa3 Ne6 20. Rad1 Qf8 21. Qb3 Re8 22. Nd5 Bg7 23. Rfe1 c5 24. Qa3 Ra7 25. Qa5 c4 26. a4 b4 27. Nf6+ Bxf6 28. exf6 Qxf6 29. Qxb4 Rg7 30. Qxc4 Kh8 31. Rd6 Reg8 32. Rexe6 Rxg2+ 33. Kf1 Qxb2 34. Qd4+ 1-0 [/pgn]
[pgn] [Event "St. Louis Rapid & Blitz"] [Site " INT"] [Date "2020.09.16"] [EventDate "2020.09.15"] [Round "4"] [Result "1-0"] [White "Hikaru Nakamura"] [Black "Alireza Firouzja"] [ECO "B12"] [WhiteElo "2736"] [BlackElo "2728"] [PlyCount "91"]
  1. e4 c6 2. d4 d5 3. e5 Bf5 4. h4 h5 5. Bd3 Bxd3 6. Qxd3 Qa5+ 7. Bd2 Qa6 8. e6 Qxd3 9. exf7+ Kxf7 10. cxd3 Nh6 11. Nf3 Nf5 12. O-O Rg8 13. Re1 Ke8 14. Bg5 Na6 15. a3 g6 16. Nc3 Bg7 17. Ne2 Nc7 18. Ng3 Bf8 19. Nxf5 gxf5 20. Bf4 Kd7 21. Bxc7 Kxc7 22. Re5 Rg4 23. Rxf5 Bg7 24. Re1 Bxd4 25. Rxe7+ Kb6 26. Nxd4 Rxd4 27. Rxh5 Rxd3 28. Rhh7 Rd1+ 29. Kh2 Rd2 30. Rxb7+ Kc5 31. Rhf7 d4 32. b3 Rh8 33. Kh3 Rd1 34. g3 d3 35. Rbd7 Rh5 36. Rf4 Rd5 37. b4+ Kb5 38. Rxd5+ cxd5 39. Rd4 Ka4 40. Kg2 Kb3 41. h5 Kc2 42. Rxd5 Re1 43. g4 d2 44. h6 Re6 45. Rxd2+ Kxd2 46. g5 1-0 [/pgn]
[pgn] [Event "St. Louis Rapid & Blitz"] [Site " INT"] [Date "2020.09.15"] [EventDate "2020.09.15"] [Round "1"] [Result "1-0"] [White "Wesley So"] [Black "Jeffery Xiong"] [ECO "B30"] [WhiteElo "2770"] [BlackElo "2709"] [PlyCount "133"]
  1. e4 c5 2. Nf3 Nc6 3. Bb5 e6 4. O-O Nge7 5. d4 cxd4 6. Nxd4 Qb6 7. Nxc6 bxc6 8. Bd3 Ng6 9. c4 Bc5 10. Nc3 Bd4 11. Ne2 Bc5 12. Rb1 a5 13. Nc3 Bd4 14. Na4 Qc7 15. c5 O-O 16. Re1 d6 17. Be3 dxc5 18. Nxc5 Rd8 19. Bxd4 Rxd4 20. Qc2 e5 21. Rbd1 Nf8 22. Bc4 Qe7 23. Rxd4 exd4 24. Nd3 Bg4 25. f4 Be6 26. f5 Bxc4 27. Qxc4 Qd7 28. Ne5 Qc7 29. Qxd4 Rd8 30. Qc5 Nd7 31. Nxd7 Rxd7 32. e5 Rd5 33. Qe3 Qe7 34. h3 Qc5 35. Kh2 Qxe3 36. Rxe3 Kf8 37. f6 gxf6 38. exf6 Rd2 39. Re5 Rxb2 40. Rxa5 Ke8 41. Kg3 c5 42. a4 Kd7 43. Rxc5 Ke6 44. Rc6+ Kf5 45. a5 Ra2 46. a6 Ra4 47. Kf3 Ra3+ 48. Ke2 h5 49. Kd2 Ra2+ 50. Kc3 Rxg2 51. Rc5+ Kxf6 52. Ra5 Rg8 53. a7 Ra8 54. Kc4 h4 55. Kb5 Ke5 56. Kb6+ Kf4 57. Kb7 Rf8 58. a8=Q Rxa8 59. Kxa8 Kg3 60. Ra3+ Kg2 61. Kb7 f5 62. Kc6 f4 63. Kd5 f3 64. Ke4 f2 65. Rf3 f1=Q 66. Rxf1 Kxf1 67. Kf3 1-0 [/pgn]
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2020.09.19 23:48 slex1 My younger brother downloaded porn onto his iPhone

Hello all,
My 19 year old (dumb) younger brother came to me recently (I work in a tech field but I don’t specialize in cyber security) because he seemed to have recently seen something online about the dangers of downloading porn and is now nervous because he has downloaded multiple videos onto his iPhone from sketchy places online.
He has an iPhone XR on the most up to date software if that matters (not sure if he’s on iOS 14 yet).
Apparently he’s been doing this for a couple years - he got an app off the App Store that allowed you to download videos but doesn’t remember what it’s called. He’s downloaded mainly from pornhub (which is at least a little less likely to get malware right?) but has admitted to using some sketchy sites as well. He said he originally stored them in the stock photos app (backed up to iCloud) but then started using the files app (also backed up to iCloud).
So what are the chances he has some sort of virus/malware? I’ve always heard iPhones are pretty locked down but am unsure about this sort of thing. I figured we could completely wipe his iPhone & set it up as new just to be sure - but then I wasn’t sure about the files/photos that have been saved on iCloud. Could some of those have installed something in another hidden directory that makes them difficult to find? I’m not sure what the best option is here. He keeps all his banking stuff on his phone too so that also has me nervous.
Any help is appreciated, thank you.
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2020.09.19 23:37 Garvinfred Interested in coming to Burning Man in 2021? This is your Reddit Survival Guide! Read this first before you post a question!

Before you read any further, no one has any idea if Burning Man will exist in 2021 (or even 2022). The below information is what this sub posted in prior years, which was helpful. No has any idea if any of this will be true, accurate or helpful for future years. No one knows. But at least it’ll get you started. In the meantime, watch this video to experience the joy of 2019 Burning Man: and hold off on buying any plane tickets until you know 2021 will happen.
If you're a first time burner or first time poster read through this before you post. It may answer the question you were thinking of making a new thread about (and many more you didn't know you had!). Over time this post will get the occasional update as things change and new and updated information becomes available.
  1. If you haven't already you should READ THE OFFICIAL BURNING MAN SURVIVAL GUIDE! ( Seriously.
  2. Got kids coming along? Read the Burning Man Official Family Survival Guide: Kidsville has its own survivial guide:
  3. Read the Survival Guide again. It's required reading for the event so you may as well get that done. The First Timers Guide ( is also required reading if you've never been before. And of course the Preparation Guide ( will answer a lot of your questions.
  4. There's also a whole heap of info and links in the sidebar of this sub right over there --->
  5. Please do a search of this subreddit ( before you post a question to avoid asking something that has already been answered a bunch of times. If you start a thread that could have been answered by using any of the above resources you'll likely catch snark. And you'll kinda deserve it. Radical self reliance is one of the principles after all.
Ticket Info:
• No ticket information for 2021 has been announced. The ticket info announcement date varies each year but we have no idea what will happen for 2021 or 2022. A guess is that some update will be given by January or February 2021 at the latest. Info on tickets can be found at
• Read this ( on how to avoid being scammed when buying a ticket in the aftermarket. Buyer beware for fakes and scams and if the deal seems to good to be true, it probably is.
• See this announcement ( from Burning Man Ticketing about a common scam.
• We don't allow ticket requests or sales anywhere in the sub other than in a specific official buy/sell tickets thread, which will get posted once tickets are actually available. If you create a separate post about your unique, particular and very special need for tickets, it will get deleted.
• If you have questions about lost tickets or anything else to do with your order email Ticket Support ([email protected]). Please don’t contact them to ask when ticket information will be announced.
Events, Parties & Workshops
• The events guide for 2021 will eventually be here in its entirety: (Pro tip: the book you get at greeters contains only a very small portion of the scheduled events). This website compiles all the events in a giant printable Excel spreadsheet shortly before the Burning Week starts: Wanna know what you missed in 2019? Have at it: Wanna know what you missed in 2020? Go here:
• Lots of famous DJs play at Burning Man but the burn is NOT a music festival. There are no main stages and the majority of folks who attend aren't just there to chase DJs. For these and other reasons, camps and art cars are encouraged not to announce/promote their lineups until just before the burn. produces an unofficial guide that, when it comes out, will be your best source of info on who is playing where and when. Patience! It gets released just before the event.
Bring Art!
• The Honorarium process (free money from Burning Man!) for creating, making and bring art to Burning Man. Submit a letter of intent by the deadline or lose out on the free cash (that, of course, comes with strings, but free cash!): No idea if this will still exist.
• Want to bring art without going through the Honoraria process! It’s easy and fun and everyone should do it. The process starts here:
• Need some inspiration or curious as to what types of art to bring? Skim through the placed art for 2018 and 2019: and Want to know what art was "brought" in 2020? Go to
• Your art can be big or small, have fire or not, and the Burning Man ARTery (the art department) is helpful and there to help you bring art to the playa:
• Want to get involved but not sure where or how? Start here: and
Coming from far away or want to stay close to home?
The Reddit Meet-Up:
• There will likely be one on Wednesday during the event at the camp called Automatic Subconscious. Something may or may not get announced here so check the above events website when the time comes. There will be booze and probably only mildly annoying music. Come enjoy the dusty floor and the views from the Automatic Subconscious nest. Search Reddit meetup in this sub to meet those who in the past remembered to show up.
• Find your Facebook friends on playa with Burner Map:
• Check out the Unofficial BRC Map:
• There are other unofficial apps for placements and events: In 2019 Burning Man had its own app so you can create your personalized list of events and places to go.
• We previously had a whole bunch of questions about yurts (and yurt tape) so check out these threads ( before starting one of your own please.
• Going Solo is a topic that comes up super often, so much so this thread ( up recently. This one ( also has good tips. And this one ( and this one ( Did we mention there’s a search button?
• Joining a camp is NOT a requirement. If you do it should be because you're excited about their playa gift and you want to help them give it, not because they'll feed and shelter you. Your best best for finding a camp to join is checking out the appropriate part of ePlaya ( and the Burning Man website: Other great threads worth checking out
• Playa misconceptions (
• What to expect your first few hours on (and on the way to) playa (
• Advice you won't find in the "official" guides (
• Disasters at Burning Man (
• What are your can't-live-without playa lifesavers? (
• Or do you just need a bunch of Burning Man stories on a cold night while sipping warm pickle juice? (
Weekly Topics
• This sub previously had weekly topics of discussion that were SUPER and extraordinarily useful. Go to this Google Doc with links to all the threads: This is a wonderful resource if you have the time to read through it all or it you are looking for info on a particular topic. Pretty much every question you may have is answered here and the answers are pretty timeless.
If you're posting something of interest to the community and not asking a question this advice probably isn't for you. If you're after experiences or opinions, great. If your question is super specific or a bit surly, fine. But if you're asking a simple question here before doing at least a bit of research yourself be prepared for some snarky responses. It's just our way.
DO NOT post a link to a fundraiser without reading our guidelines first: Failure to do so could result in your thread being deleted or you getting some less than pleasant feedback. Fundraiser posts must be marked with a “fundraiser” flair (once you post, go back to your post and you’ll see this option).
Posts with nudity must be marked with NSFW flair (once you post, go back to your post and you’ll see this option).
Posts including photos where it's not clear the photographer has the subject's consent are not ok and will be removed.
Posts for selling/advertising/promoting may be removed at the discretion of the Mod Team depending on their content. Generally, the Mod Team doesn’t like sales posts.
Post containing links with referral codes will be removed. Posts selling commodified burn related products will be removed. Posts promoting your YouTube channel/blog/website will be removed if that's all your account is used for or if it's clear your site is looking to profit off our members. Repeated posts of this nature will result in your account being banned.
Other than that, welcome to the dust. (with gratitude to jovankat, from whom I blatantly copied most of the above and kept the original Australian term "heap").
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2020.09.19 23:31 OrganizationFickle I was doing some reading about break ups and came across a gem of a comment which I thought I'd share with anyone on this fine Saturday evening. It made me feel better, so maybe it will help you too.

Here it is:
"So, for all you newbies who ask the questions, "Will the hurting ever stop," or "Will my ex come back," or "Why did he/she do this," this is how it typically goes down.
You two break up--doesn't matter who does it. You immediately panic and begin chasing, begging, pleading, harrassing, phoning, e-mailing, IMing, stalking (okay not all of them, just pick whichever one you did). Most of us will likely do some things during this stage that will make you cringe when you think back on it, say after about 3 months.
You lose weight. You neglect yourself, your house, your job (how many hours do we all log on this site while we are at work?). You drive your friends and family crazy talking about the break up. You cry at the drop of a dime. You can't even comprehend that your life might not again include that "special person." You begin putting them on a pedestal, forgetting all of the nagging things about them that used to drive you crazy. In your mind, they have become omnipotent, all encompasing, all everything.
You convince yourself that you are a loser who just screwed up a relationship with "the best person in the world." You KNOW without a doubt that you will never EVER love like that again. You know no one else will come along who even comes close to being as marvelous as your ex (excuse me while I chuckle to myself here). You wear a sad face for the world to see (you should see my work ID taken 2 days after my breakup, it's just pitiful).
They (the ex's) remain steadfast in their denial to get back together. Many of them leapfrog into new relationships, immediately being exclusive with a new person. For those that do leapfrog, they appear to just "replace" you with a new model. All of the things you two used to do, they now do with someone else. Bowling, cuddling watching television, motorcycle riding, antiquing. Whatever you two did, likely they will just begin doing those things with someone new.
You hear about them and their new life. You are desperate for any crumbs of news about their life. Many of us make things worse here by trying to use manipulation to get them back--yet they stay away from us like we are the plague.
For those of us who do still have contact with our ex's we begin selling ourselves short. Doing stupid things like allowing them access to our bodies and then wanting to strangle them afterward when they remind us that "Sex does not imply hope."
You, in further panic mode, begin frantically searching the internet using phrases such as "break ups," "divorce stopper," whatever. You stumble upon this site, pay your money because your curious and lo and behold, you find all of us folks in various stages of this whole breakup bullsh*t.
You voraciously read the posts. You search for news of those who "got their mates back." You're on the site constantly. You'll read the books and think "Ah I can do this. I can get this person back." You begin your "no contact" and for some of us, this will get a reaction from our ex's. For the rest, no contact is and will continue to be what you'll get and receive.
Time goes by. You'll do some stupid things. You'll call your ex when you shouldn't. You'll call when you've had to much to drink. You'll call even after 50 people on this site tell you not to. You'll show up on their doorstep, hating yourself all the time. Then you'll come back to this site and ask everyone to tell you why you were so stupid as to do whatever it was you did.
Then you'll get serious about no contact. It'll hurt, but you try to stick to it. Here's the turning point for most. For those folks who have contact with their ex's, your no contact will either bring them sniffing curiously around or they'll be somewhere high fiving their friends thanking the God's that you haven't called.
Now's the tough time. Nothing but time works. Everday the ache in your heart grows a little less. It's only nanobits that it dies down by. But everyday it will get slowly better. You'll have setbacks. You'll run into your ex accidently. You'll run into mutual friends who'll tell you something about your ex that'll have you high-tailing it home for a good cry. You'll see your ex with their new "friend." You'll receive a phone call or an e-mail from your ex who "doesn't want to be in a relationship but still wants to be friends (with benefits if you allow).
Here's another important part. You need to truly sit down and truthfully look back at the relationship and understand what you did to help with it's demise. If you miss this part, you go through all the suffering for nothing because Buddy, you'll be back here again. This site is to teach you about you. To teach you how to be a better partner, a better person. Missing that lesson is detrimental to the whole process. It's the REASON that you're going through this. God (or whatever your higher power is) needed you to learn something about YOU. Don't miss out on the lesson.
Then one day you'll smile because you didn't immediately check your answering machine when you came in. And one day you'll decide to clean the muck that has accumulated in your house. And one day you'll go outside and admit to the universe that you surrender what control you thought you had.
And one day you'll decide to date again. And one day you'll go out on your first date and it will likely be a disaster. And then you'll either force yourself to continue dating or you'll decide that you aren't ready to date but you are ready to be out amongst people again. And many of you will have some quick reconcillations with your ex's. Many of us won't. But one day, it won't matter as much. Because time will allow you to catch yourself going minutes and then hours without thinking of the ex. And you'll begin to be able to think of life possibly without that person and not dissolve into a puddle of nothingness because of the thought.
And for most of us, sadly, life will go on without that mate. That's the truth, amigos. Don't want to dash your hopes but probably less than 3% of the people on this site get back with their mates. Sobering isn't it? But, as the site instructs, you must accept this before you can truly begin to heal or draw your ex back to you. For the lucky (maybe unlucky one's depending on how much work it will take to keep a mate that has wandered back) who get back with their ex's, many will find that the paradise they envisioned isn't reality and what they once thought was gold has a certain tarnish to it now. But they stay and try and make it work because it's comfortable or, if they are really lucky, it's meant to be.
But for most of us. Life goes on. And one day you'll find yourself having a gut busting laugh over something totally stupid and you'll think to yourself "I am getting better." And finally (thank God) you'll have sex with some new and find that a) if it wasn't good, at least you did it or b) it was so much better than with your ex you wonder why you waited so long to get back out there. And you'll know you're one the road to recovery.
I guess what I'm trying to convey here is, while each situation is unique, the characteristics of most of our situations are the same. Most of us will go through at least something that I've written here. So, when someone tells you on this site that time will help you get through it, believe them. When they tell you that "trust me, it will get better and you will stop hurting eventually," believe them. And when they give you good advice that your head understands but your heart rejects, take a moment to think before you react.
Don't beat yourself up if you do something that you wished you hadn't (calling, contacting, etc) WE ALL DID AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER. Be kind to yourself. Be forgiving of yourself. And most of all remember that being happily single is an alternative. Even if society is beating it into your head that you MUST have a mate, take some time to heal before going back out there. There are plenty of good people to love, but don't go back out there broken, jaded about love, etc. Accept realty. Experience the pain. Learn the lesson. Actively try to heal. Remember the person you were when you first met your ex and get that person back.
And the universe will take care of the rest."
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2020.09.19 23:31 Lilwolf2000 Did others get an email for their preorder from Oculus?

I preordered the 256gig quest 2 from Oculus with the head strap. But I missed the oct 13th date, and it said nov 3rd. No big deal. Then I heard that Costco preorders were still available, plus it was a bit cheaper if you want the fit kit and the headstrap (which I did).
So I preordered then tried to cancel mine from Oculus... it's not showing up on the site... and I didn't get an email. I'm assuming that I missed hitting ok once.
Did others get an email? Or does it show on your oculus account? If so, I'm good. otherwise I have to contact Oculus.
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2020.09.19 23:30 TheBusted A Proper Bulbing

Not mine, but this is another one of my all-time favorite stories.

Hi, my name is Alana. I'm 27, with long, brown hair, 5'7", and a perfect body, thanks to the two hours I spend daily at the exclusive gym down the street from my luxury condo. I've been told by about a million different males, as well as several girlfriends that I have a face to die for. Can you blame me for being confident?
It's easy to stay beautiful when you're in my line of "work." If I was asked to list my job title, I think I'd call myself a Professional Man-ipulator. It's an extremely cushy, well-paying "job" that requires minimal effort and gives me plenty of free time to travel, go shopping, but most importantly tend to my personal grooming. Between the gym and all the skin products I'm able to afford, it's easy staying beautiful.
How did I fall into this profession? It wasn't until my early 20s that I discovered the joys of Female Domination. For a long time, I worked as a waitress. It was a nice restaurant and I wasn’t making a bad living, but I felt unfulfilled. Now those feelings of emptiness at the end of a long day are gone. I’ve found my true calling: the humiliation of the male gender. Not all males, mind you. I'm talking about perverted, penis-driven retards also known as "Compulsive Jackoffs," or, my personal favorite, "Walking ATMs."
There is a lot of machine ATMs world today. But for me, there are literally billions. That's because I can make most men do whatever I want whenever I want. Put it this way -- I get dozens of emails from male wimps every day, most of whom I ignore since I don't have time. This leaves me free to focus on the jerkoffs with the fattest wallets (at least until I am done pressing a few of their "buttons" and transferring their $ to my fat bank account -- it's the only thing fat about me).
Here's the way it works: These males work their shitty 9 to 5 jobs. Then they willingly give their money to me. Or, I take it from them. Whichever you prefer.
So you're probably wondering why I have titled this story "A Proper Bulbing." Well, it has to do with scrotums. And when it comes to scrotums, I guess you could say I have a hate/love relationship.
Why do I hate scrotums so much? Scrotums are responsible for many of the world's ills. I'm totally convinced the world would be a much, MUCH better place if men's scrotums were put totally under the control of Women. Any men who still displayed violent tendencies would have their scrotums disciplined with blunt force, or a simple electrical shock, for those ladies who'd rather not touch. Imagine how many fewer wars and how much less violence there would be. But this isn't the only reason I hate scrotums. Imagine having that silly, wrinkled flap of junk hanging off your body! I detest looking at regular scrotums. However, that last sentence deserves an asterisk. That's because I very much enjoy looking at scrotums that have been "treated" properly. What do I mean by that? U shall see.
Why do I love scrotums so much? Because scrotums are part of what makes it so incredibly, amazingly, magically EAZY to control males! That and their stupid penises, of course! It’s a great comfort knowing that all men have these monstrosities sitting between their legs, causing them to do the stupidest, most retarded things imaginable. And knowing that I can control males through their scrotums (and penises) by doing absolutely NOTHING, other than being myself, is the greatest thing about life. It's like God (who is obviously female) decided to give Women the ultimate gift -- a way of dominating the weaker gender by her mere presence. I think about this all the time -- when I'm working out and men are gawking at my spandex-clad body, when I'm walking down the street in my expensive new shoes and a skirt, and of course when I'm totally humiliating the living shit out of males on the internet and raping their bank accounts.
But the "love" is not only about that. Remember I said that I love looking at scrotums when they've been "treated" a certain way? Well, that gets to one of my favorite activity involving men: ballbusting. For me and my girlfriends, kicking scrotum is the most liberating activity in the world. Every girl needs to try it.
For you men out there reading this and feeling yourself weaken -- I have a standard rate for males on my website: $500 and I will come and kick your scrotum with my expensive shoes until you beg for mercy, and your scrotum is inflated to the size of a baseball. In other words, by paying the $500, men agree to submit their scrotums for a brutal kicking that will result in terrible, excessive swelling, or, as I like to call it, "bulbing." I try not to pop their balls, because I'm not psycho or anything (but no promises), which means my goal is to inflict as much damage as humanly possible without rupture.
I should also add that by paying the $500, the male agrees to submit to a clothed-female nude-male photograph session. The photos always take place at the end of the scrotum punishment. I insist upon full-body, fully nude male photos, because I love the look of his face when I've finished um, annihilating (yes, that’s not too strong a word) his genitals. And of course I insist upon a close-up of the scrotum itself. It's so much more pleasing to the eye when it's a deep, enduring red/purple color and swollen to the point where the guy probably won't be able to walk for several days. I love it! Once I have the photographs, it means I basically own the guy. I don't show a photo of his face on my website (unless he pisses me off, or unless he gives his consent), but all the close-ups are on my website. All 476 (and counting) of them. 476 bulbs. Tee hee!
$500 sounds like a lot of money for a male to pay for what is essentially his own destruction, but you wouldn’t believe how popular my service is. Since I started my scrotum enlargement program two years ago, I have "processed" 476 scrotums. That's $238,000 for the mathematically challenged amongst you. And that's only part of the revenue I've been generating. Pretty soon I'll have bulbed 500 scrotums! I think I'm going to invite my girlfriends over for #500. Imagine that. Males willingly pay me to mangle their groins. Isn't life wonderful? Talk about absolute power.
This gets me to the story that I want to share with you. It's about a male that I own. I'm particularly proud of this one. Let me explain.
As I mentioned, prior to becoming a Man-ipulator, I was a waitress at a good restaurant in a posh part of down. I made a decent living, but the hours were shitty and I had to put up with Keith. Ah, Keith [snicker].
Keith was, and still is, the floor supervisor at my restaurant. In other words, back when I waited tables, he was my boss. Now, as you will soon see, I'm his boss. Keith is a tall, balding male in his early 30s who used to act as if he was the shit. All the waitresses couldn't stand him. There were several reasons for this: One, he was a total stickler for punctuality. If you were a minute late, you'd be docked two hours pay. Two, any time there was any issue with a customer -- no matter how big a douche bag the customer was -- he would side with the customer and give the wait staff an earful. Three, he made insulting comments to all the waitresses and he often would grope us in ways that made us uncomfortable. Me and my friend, Trina Lin, who also quit and is also now a Man-iupulator, used to get furious about it. We even considered telling the chef and owner, but we realized that d-bag wouldn't do anything about it. So why bother?
Around two and a half years ago, I stumbled upon some Female Domination sites on the Internet. I'm a voracious reader and what I discovered really fascinated me. I knew some Women out there controlled their men but I never realized the extent of the fetish. I shared my findings with Trina and we began experimenting on the side. In absolutely no time, we both had several male clients and we were raking in the dough. Six months after that, we both surprised the fuck out of Keith by quitting on a busy Saturday. We both showed up to work and put on our waitress outfits. Then, just as the first diners were getting seated, we walked up to Keith, handed him our aprons, flipped him the bird and walked out of there. It was awesome! The look on his face was priceless. As we walked out, he shouted, "You'll never work in this town again." We just turned to each other and laughed.
After that, I quickly forgot about Keith as my new career took off. The next couple of years went by. My income skyrocketed and I "work" like, maybe ten hours per week. But can you even really call it work if you're doing what you love to do? I guess it is work in the sense that I have to sort through a million stupid emails from retarded men and make sure I don't cross paths with a dangerous dude. For that reason, I have a bodyguard. I don't pay him anything, since I own his ass. But he's a big, physically powerful guy who worships the ground I walk on and lives right around the corner. Any time I'm doing a session with a new client, he sits in my guest room, ready to pounce if a Walking ATM gives me any trouble. It's nice to know he's there, and he's thrilled to serve me in any way he can.
A few months ago, as I was sorting through all the loser mail I get, one of them stood out. It was the name of my ex-boss and there was an attachment. My heart skipped a beat. Keith?! What did this idiot want? Well, I opened the email and began laughing. Then I spoke with Trina on the telephone and we laughed together for another hour straight. I saved his email. Here it is:
Dear Miss Alana,
It's Keith, your ex-boss. I have been debating whether or not I should send this email but you are so irresistible that I can't help but do it. Let me explain. I know I wasn't very nice to you when you worked at (name of restaurant). And I want to apologize to you deeply and sincerely for that. As it so happens, I'm deeply submissive and a few months ago I stumbled upon your website. I couldn't believe it. The amazingly beautiful Alana, a lifestyle Dominatrix! I was shocked, amazed, and more than a little turned on.
Yes, you guessed it. I'm a totally submissive, pussy-whipped, masturbator.
I can't believe I'm going to send this. Alana, ma’am, I need to be punished for the way I treated you. Nothing would be more fitting, I think, than for me to enroll in your Jacktard 101 class, where I'll surely be taught a lesson that I'll never forget. I think this would be fitting revenge for you, for all the times I treated you poorly.
Miss Alana, I'm so sorry again. The truth is that all those times I was bothering you, I secretly fantasized about you humiliating me. I can't tell you how many times I jacked off while imagining myself debasing myself at your feet, and doing stupid things for your entertainment. The day you and Trina quit, while a nightmare at work, was secretly one of my favorite days. I masturbated myself for weeks on end when I thought of the way you flipped me the bird. I couldn't get the image out of my head. Imagine my total delight and amazement when I discovered your website. This is the stuff dreams are made of.
To show you my sincerity, I have attached a photograph of me. Please tuck it away and use it against me. As I said, I intend to enroll in your Jacktard 101 program with your permission.
Humbly yours,Keith
I opened the photo attachment he sent me. Keith was naked, spread-legged, facing the camera. He held his little (of course) penis in his fingers and had this retarded look on his face. HA HA HA! The best part was his organs themselves. For such a large male, Keith had a pathetic pin-dick, but his scrotum was huge! They made his pin-dick look even smaller than it actually was -- no small feat. I especially love racking big scrotums. It’s like a fun challenge to see how big I can make them. Sometimes I can inflate them to the size of a softball.
I think I stared at the naked photograph for a good five minutes, the smile on my face growing wider and wider. I must have laughed for an hour straight. This was to be my greatest conquest yet.
You're probably wondering what the Jacktard 101 program is, so let me explain. The Jacktard 101 program was a rather ingenious lesson plan I came up with for all those compulsive jacktards out there to jerk off properly and worship me in a way that I like to be worshipped.
Here's how it works: By enrolling in my Jacktard 101 program, the penis pumping puppet agrees to pump his penis (say that ten times fast!) at least once every single day (I know, piece o cake, right?) for 101 consecutive days. For you monkey-spankers out there, it probably sounds like a dream. But there's a catch. In order to "graduate," my students commit to gobbling up their manchowder after every single ejaculation. Can you even imagine? 101 dirty cumloads festering inside the belly of each and every loser that enrolls in the program. It took me approximately 19 minutes to film the Jacktard 101 video and I've sold over 2,000 of them. There are other built in rules in my program. I demand that all my students stare at a photo of me on my website while they jerk it. It's just a simple photo of me in classy, feminine attire staring right at the camera lens. This way, I'm conditioning their brains so they worship me and send me extra tribute.
It's been a remarkably successful program for me, as well as the losers who pay to humiliate themselves. Successful for me because I'm getting rich. Successful for the losers because they get to serve a higher power and humiliate themselves, while pleasuring their stupid penises. According to my calculations, if a dude eats 101 of his own pathetic cumloads he's effectively eaten a gallon of his own jizz! Ha ha. Can you even imagine? If that isn't the complete definition of LOSER, I don't know what is. Jerk your own pathetic penis, and EAT all your slimy splooge -- a gallon of it. If that isn't enough, I make them thank me after they're finished guzzling. "Thanks for the lesson, Miss Alana," they all say.
There's one final segment to my program. Once the loser completes the program, he can download a certificate from my website, which says, "I successfully completed Miss Alana's Jacktard 101 program. I'm a certified cum-eating loser." Ha! Then they email me a photo of themselves holding the certificate with load # 101 festering on their tongues. Now that's total ownership.
That gets me back to Keith. Once I got finished reading his email, and laughing, I threw on my spandex and went to the gym. As I bounced up and down on the Stairmaster, I wondered how I could ensure that Keith suffered the most abject, demoralizing humiliation ever inflicted upon a male. No easy task, right? There are a lot of smart girls out there who have severely exploited males. Millions of women across the world humiliate millions of men every single day. But I know I'm good at this and I was up to the task. I couldn't stop smiling during my workout once I figured out what I was going to do to the complete jackass that made my life a living hell for three years.
After getting home, showering and slipping into shorts and a t-shirt, I sat in front of the computer and constructed an email:
Dear Keith the LOSER,
Hahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah! Why am I not surprised to discover you’re an ashamed, closeted, penis jacking pervert?
I will admit you as a student in my Jacktard 101 program under the following added probationary conditions. Because of our history, I'm going to have to insist that you agree to a few additional up front rules. I believe this added structure is necessary to your development as a true worshipping disciple of mine. So, here are my added rules:
  1. Each day, before two in the afternoon, you are to film yourself masturbating and email the film to me. But I don't have the time to watch the whole retarded penis-jacking ritual and I don't want your emails jamming my computer. Therefore you are to send me only 30 seconds of edited footage. The 30 seconds will begin with you introducing yourself as Keith The Loser, then a quick snippet of your pathetic ejaculation, then you EATING YOUR CUM, and thanking me PROFUSELY for teaching you another lesson.
  2. Each day you are to deposit $10 to my pay pal account. If I'm dissatisfied with your video (AND I WILL WATCH EVERY VIDEO), I will increase the payment to $100 on that day.
  3. Any failure to follow my instructions will result in me shutting you off for good. There will be no second chances. You should also know that if I sense any lack of respect, the folks at (my old restaurant) might be getting some new movies in the mail.
Your agreement to My terms will be in the form of a video, sent to Me tomorrow by 2 PM, as well as an initial deposit of $100 (first ten days) to My account.
-Miss Alana
The next day, like clockwork, Keith’s first video came in, I immediately forwarded it to Trina and we watched it while talking on the phone. Both of us couldn't stop laughing. Keith stood there with his legs spread, his crotch sticking out, pumping his spunk into a tissue. The whole time his tongue was hanging out and he was grunting like a freak. He looked right at the camera and gobbled the whole mess down. Then he got on his knees and put his hands up in prayer and started thanking me like a boss who spared his job. What a total triumph! We had oodles of fun watching him make a total jackass of himself for the first week or so. After that, he got boring, so I didn't watch for a while, but one day I checked a few videos to make sure he was in compliance. His "loser-tax" tributes continued to fill my bank account. Of all the losers that send me tribute, I think I've had to do less "work" for Keith than any of them. In light of our history, it's fitting, don't you think? A convenient transfer of wealth from male to Female, from retard to Goddess. It's a unique form of Darwinism.
For load #101, I decided to make a house call. Because of our history, Keith was obviously a special case. This was more than just some random jackass who wanted to be humiliated; this was personal. In light of that, I wanted to have an intimate one-on-one moment with Keith where I could cement my dominance over him in memorable fashion. For that reason, I though the best place to truly embarrass him and hammer home my superiority was in his "private" sanctuary, a.k.a. his bedroom, the site of so many self-administered personal relief massages. By invading his home and shaming him in the way I had selected, it would show him that his body and his life, not to mention his dignity, no longer belonged to him. It belonged to me.
After arranging to visit his condo on a Friday afternoon, I instructed him in an email to leave his front door unlocked and lie on his bed, naked. He was to have tissues and hand lotion in bed with him and he was to masturbate himself to the brink of orgasm. I instructed him to groan continuously so I'd have no trouble finding his bedroom when I arrived. As a final touch, I told him I wanted his legs spread and up in the air and the middle finger of his non-jacking hand to be wedged up his anus. Just so there would be no shenanigans, I told him that people knew of my whereabouts and if he was anything less than ultra-obedient, the tapes of him masturbating would be circulated everywhere.
I dressed in simple attire, jeans, a blouse, booties and a full length jacket. I didn't intend to be there for more than 15 minutes. This wasn’t the first time I arranged to walk in on a masturbating loser. I absolutely love to do it. Another technique of mine is to arrive late, so the male is forced to get all pent up and bothered while I take my sweet time and arrive at my leisure.
When I arrived, I took a moment to take my jacket off and check myself in the mirror. I could hear the shameful monkey-spank groans coming from down the hall, so without further delay I headed straight to the source of the perverted groaning sound, an anticipatory smile on my face. I pushed open the door to his bedroom and there was Keith in all his "glory," legs spread and elevated, finger stuck retardedly up his own ass, pumping his penis and groaning. The tissues and lube were next to him on the bed.
"Oh I'm sorry, am I interrupting something?" I said, conjuring up my most condescending, feminine voice.
Keith's face turned so red. It's always more satisfying when they get really embarrassed. And in Keith’s case, it was with good reason that he was embarrassed. But I wanted to make sure he experienced some real shame. I sat down on the bed next to him and slid my hand beneath his chin, so he had no choice but to face me.
"You should see yourself," I began. "What a disgusting pervert you are! You do realize you've paid me a thousand dollars to feed on your own filthy sperm, right? And now look at you!" I released his chin and slapped him like a pimp slapping his bitch. His face became the picture of shame -- eyes cast downward, cheeks redder than ever. That's what I wanted. “Absolutely pathetic,” I added.
I'm not in the business of giving males what they want. I'm in the business of giving males what they need. I knew Keith wanted me to watch him masturbate and consume his own ejaculate. He wanted a female audience to fulfill his fantasy. I had something else in mind.
"Okay, I can't stay. I'm meeting a couple of friends at the mall," I lied. "Toss your legs up over your head, so your penis is pointing down at your stupid face."
Once he obeyed, I reached into my handbag and took out his certificate. I flipped it casually in the air and made for the door. "I have no intentions of watching you splooge all over your face. I'm going to go buy a few pairs of designer shoes with your money. Then, tomorrow I'm going to splatter your balls with them. Happy jerking, loser! If you jerk really quickly, I might hear your groans before I leave."
I could hear him grunting as I left the apartment. He obviously wanted me to hear him pleasuring himself. I’m quite sure he gave himself a faggot facial while I was riding the elevator downstairs. But what the fuck do I care? I had exploited him the way I wanted to exploit him and now it was time to go shopping.
Later, when I got home, I wrote him an email:
Dear Keith the LOSER,
Tomorrow (Saturday) is officially "Punishment Day" for you. It's the day I intend to pay you back in full for your childish and unacceptable behavior from the days when I worked at (name of restaurant). As I'm sure you know from your deep infatuation with Me, I specialize in Ballbusting. I assume you have had a chance to review the 100s of pictures of Bulbs on my website. You can expect your scrotum to take on a similar appearance. Make sure you shave your pubes THOROUGHLY the morning before you arrive. I want it smooth. And dipshit, I have to warn you that I'll take absolutely no prisoners. I'm going to knock your stupid nutsack (and the nuts inside your stupid nutsack) into next week. Very few things in life give me more pleasure. The fact that we have a history will only enhance my feeling of determination and my ultimate joy when I do what NEEDS to be done.
Of course you know you will pay me $500 for this necessary attitude adjustment, which you yourself admitted that you so desperately need. When you arrive, I'll lead you into a room, where you are to strip naked and bring your wallet with $500 in it. I'll be waiting in my kitchen. You are to enter, kneel and open your wallet so that I can ceremoniously rape it.
I expect you to arrive at noon. Do not be late.
-Miss Alana
For all you jerkoffs (and Females) unfamiliar with my practices, let me explain in clinical terms what it means to properly "bulb" a male. When a male suffers trauma to his scrotum, the testicles inevitably swell. As they swell, eventually they force the skin from the scrotum to stretch in such a way that the skin will accommodate the damaged nuts. A properly "bulbed" scrotum takes on a highly comic appearance. For one, it's quite large in size, since testicles tend to swell quite dramatically when punished with the blunt force of Female Footwear. Two, the skin takes on an ultra smooth appearance. This is because, as the gonads undergo trauma, the skin has no choice but to stretch to accommodate them. The result is sort of like what a facelift does to wrinkled skin. Not only that, but a properly bulbed scrotum tends to become almost perfectly circular in appearance. What a wonderful symmetry, and proof that scrotums were meant to be this way. And lastly, the bulb also turns wonderful shades of pink, red, blue, and my personal favorite, purple.
I have a high quality digital SLR camera, and after a successful bulbing, I make sure to take dozens of photographs. Then, I'll analyze the photographs and come up with my favorite one. The photograph is then labeled and archived with the male's name, age, and the date the bulbing took place. My photographs always include a totally flaccid penis in them. There are several reasons for this: One, I find the full image, penis included, very pleasing to the eye. Two, the docile penis offers wonderful perspective on the extent of the damage that was inflicted upon the scrotum. Three, it makes for a highly humiliating image that the bulbed male can always look as a reminder that he was put in his place by the superior gender. I want him to know that he is the victim of Female Power. And when I'm finished with them, they know it.
Prior to Keith's arrival, I had Trina, Lynn and Leslie come over. They're my closest gal pals and all intricately familiar with male humiliation. I had them sit quietly in my kitchen while I answered the front door. Keith looked so embarrassed and this was even before he realized he would have an audience. Without saying a word, I stared him down. "Are you ready for more humiliation?"
"Yes ma'am," he looked almost crestfallen.
"Look me in the eye when I address you!" I gave him three crisp bitch-slaps. "Oh, don't you worry. I'm going to humiliate you alright," I said, before leading him to the room where he was to remove his clothing (and what little dignity he had left). I couldn't help but snicker as he disrobed. He had a little erection and his balls hung there, oblivious to me, their executioner.
Fittingly, I wore all black -- a tight black skirt, a black top, black stockings and black high heels. Trina, who is Asian, looked gorgeous in a white dress with these really cool white leather square-toed boots. The other ladies looked quite lovely as well.
You should have seen Keith's eyes pop out of his head when he walked butt-naked into my kitchen and found himself face-to-face with four clothed Females. He was totally mortified.
Lynn has this great video camera that takes both video and high quality photographs simultaneously. She captured Keith's priceless reaction when he realized his humiliation was going to be much more public than he imagined. The girls all laughed as he stood there stunned. He mumbled something about this not being what he expected.
"Get your naked ass over here and present your wallet to me," I said matter-of-factly.
After I raped Keith's wallet of $500 of his hard-earned money, I made him kneel before us and admit what a compulsive masturbating jackass he truly was. "We've all seen the videos," Lynn added, as his face turned bright red just as it had the day before. We all called him a loser (I have always found that word to be particularly fitting and effective), jackass, compulsive dick-spanking retard, lots of mocking laughter, you get the idea.
Once that was taken care of, it was time to get down to the bulbing. I couldn't wait. All dominant women love to bust nuts. It's just that me and my gal pals take it to another level.
"Time to get underway," I said.
First I had him stand up, legs spread. I told him to present his balls to me and beg me to teach him a lesson. This is a must. It shows the male knows his place and is ready to accept his punishment. It also adds a ceremonial element to the proceedings, which I think is a necessary formalization of a process.
"Mess him up, Alana," said Trina.
I used a chair to brace myself and carefully measured my target, pressing the tip of my pump into Keith's groin.
In the early stages of a bulbing, it's important to get a lot of kicks in, but the kicks can't be too hard. You want the male to remain on his feet. I used the bridge of my foot, which does a good job of causing blunt trauma without any real risk of rupture. The goal is to get good coverage and make sure both testicles begin the initial swelling process. After each ten kicks, Keith was made to thank me, as well as the other women in attendance. I kicked him maybe a hundred times this way. For the final flurry of kicks, I upped the ante, really snapping my foot with extra force. The second to last kick was enough to put him on the floor, but before he went down I nailed him with a really super kick. This one took some skill because he was falling away. I had to shuffle my feet forward and change my angle. All my work at the gym really paid off, as it made an especially loud thud and sent his genitals flying. Lynn captured the moment perfectly, getting a great shot of his penis pointing straight to the ceiling as my foot battered his nuts. When one analyzes ballbusting photographs, it’s amazing the way the nuts contort during an assault. Keith's knees slammed together and his hands came down between his legs in protective (too late) mode. I love watching when they do that. The Women all cheered.
We were off to a good start.
I circled him as he struggled to get his bearings and (I assume) deal with the pain in his stomach. We could see he was already red down there. "Now I want you to get on all fours and face the Women. I'm going to kick you from behind."
I really love kicking scrotum from behind. I admit it gives me a thrill to see that naked ass crack just staring up at me, legs spread like a dog in heat, silly, dangling soon-to-be-bulb, waiting for additional punishment. It gives me a chance to show them how uncivilized they really are. I also love the imagery of my shoe wedged between their ass, as I rock their world. Because it echoes off the floor, each kick makes this nice snapping noise.
Keith was starting to suffer now. I could see him try to cheat his punishment by sliding his knees slowly together and lowering his ass. "Keep your fucking legs spread, ass up!" I warned him, before launching another good ten snappers. I put my hips into the last kick and his ass bounced up into the air. He fell on his side and groaned.
Now we were getting somewhere.
His legs were fastened together and his hands were wedged into his groin, doing their best to protect his prized possessions. It was pure male instinct. I’d seen it hundreds of times. I knelt down and reached between his legs, gently pushing away his hands, which gave way without too much of a fight. Once I had snaked my hand in there and secured his ever-expanding scrotum, I gave it a firm squeeze and ordered him onto his back. “Spread your legs nice and wide, loser, so we all have a nice view. It’s inspection time.”
After he realized he had no choice but to comply, I began properly inspecting his scrotum, pulling and pinching at the skin. I love the process of “damage inspection” during a bulbing because, by the time I check, the scrotum is usually highly sensitive and a simple pinch can result in pain. Keith kept wincing and writhing on the floor. But he kept his legs apart like a good, obedient male should. It was clear I had unencumbered access to Keith’s most prized possessions. And I had his respect.
I made sure to stand to one side of Keith so that the other ladies had a nice view of him lying there, genitals lewdly on display. His scrotum had turned a nice pink color and was starting to stretch, but we had a long way to go. After tugging and pinching longer than was necessary, I leaned forward and looked deep into his eyes. "We're not even close to halfway done. Get back into position," I said. Trina laughed.
Once he was back in position, I stood and let him know what I thought about him covering up. "Each time you sprawl on my kitchen floor and grab your dirty organs, it makes me want to kick you even harder," I said. "You know this is what you wanted and we all know it's what you need. So stay PUT-" SNAP....SNAP....SNAP. I began putting my hips into each kick. Now every time I kicked him, Keith's ass bounced pleasingly in the air, but knowing my warning, he gritted his teeth and got back into position.
He was really bouncing up with each kick now. Lynn let out a groan of satisfaction. All of us lifestyle dominatrixes love taking part in a good bulbing. Everything about it is so enjoyable. It's a total display of vaginal power. And we all love watching that male ass bounce in the air.
This time I squealed with pleasure. Keith's sack was now a bigger target and I could feel all that mushy flesh really yield as my foot smashed into it. Keith let out his first real scream and began rolling around my kitchen floor.
I kneeled down and again secured him by the balls. Once he had obeyed my unspoken command by lying on his back and spreading his legs, we all studied his exposed groin. "Looks better, Alana," said Leslie, in that detached, lispy voice of hers. "Progress is being made." Leslie was such a snob.
Determined to make an example of Keith, I conjured up my strictest most no-nonsense tone:
"Get back on your hands and knees. This time I want your ass way up in the air."
SNAP!! SNAP!! SNAP!! Three more good hard kicks. Keith slumped over.
"Get up."
"Uhhhhhhh!" I added.
I kicked with controlled fury. No sense in rushing the job. Plus, more kicks usually equate to a rounder, firmer bulb. It's important to be thorough and make sure every single cell of testicle ends up swollen.
Again I kneeled down and checked. Keith's scrotum was beginning to resemble a bulb, but it was still too loose for my liking. His nuts had more room to swell. An appropriately bulbed scrotum should cause the male constant pain, because the testicles eventually push against each other as they run out of room. "What do you think, Ladies?" I asked, knowing full well the answer.
"Not there yet," said Leslie.
"Nicely swollen, but not yet an official bulb," added Lynn. “We want those nuts pushing up against each other in his sack so he’s in perpetual pain.” It was as though the girl could read my mind.
“Yes dear, I know what it means to bulb a male,” I said.
I pulled a chair between Keith’s legs so I could be comfortable. A Woman can't really kick with the bridge of her foot from this position. It’s important to have square-toed shoes with some depth. Fortunately I had my square-toed red shoes at the ready, for just this purpose. Trina handed them to me.
I made him sit up and put my shoes on my feet (an honor) before returning him to the floor. I pressed my shoe up against his sack. Keith's scrotum had grown almost to the size of a baseball now, but it was clear more work was needed to increase his swelling and get the skin suitably tight. I held my shoe against his ball bag and spoke evenly.
"This is the nastiest part of a bulbing. Don’t you think, ladies?”
"Especially for him," quipped Trina.
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2020.09.19 23:10 harrlight00 Difficulty expressing myself

So I'm going to start this off by saying I've had depression and anxiety for about 8 years now, which has made this whole situation all the more fun.
When i was in college, I enjoyed being on dating sites. One summer when I was taking summer classes I met this girl who was perfect for me. We talked for weeks but never ended up meeting up. I then found out she actually lives like 6 states away, she was just taking summer classes near my college. I liked being her friend, so we just kept talking.
About a year in, we were talking every day for hours, and I started to fall in love with her. We were still both in school, so it wouldn't really work for the two of us to date, so I never really brought it up. We've met up a few times when she came up to my school or when I went down to visit her. We've been great friends the whole time, talking about anything from sports to video games to our own romantic experiences
Its been 3 years now since we met, and I'm madly in love with her. We still live in different states, but I have job flexibility, I'd move to her city tomorrow if it meant we could be together. I've just never brought it up before, and I have concerns about it.
Firstly, she is probably my best friend. I don't think I'm hers, and thats fine, but I don't think I could bear to lose her. I have trouble enough making friends, and we've helped eachother through so much I wouldn't want to ruin that.
Second, we've talked eachother through some rough breakups, and she's going through one now. I wouldn't her to think I had an ulterior motive with my advice and then immediately spring something like this on her.
I just don't know what to do, and today we had a long conversation about her breakup and I just felt myself spiraling so much that I had to cut off the conversation.
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2020.09.19 23:08 wrongwaydownaoneway I switched careers and had embarrassing employment gaps but still got an amazing job

I've been meaning to post this for a while in case anyone got any tips from it. I started a job on March 23, right when everything locked down, after being un / underemployed for several years after leaving teaching. I thought this was a fairy tale, but after persevering and a bit of luck I landed a job where I am treated like a professional and a human, compensated fairly for the work I do, full health benefits, ample time off -- and they encourage us to use it to avoid burnout. Pinch me!
That said, I filled out tons of applications and had many rejections and let-downs. I had so much depression and heartache and exhaustion, especially as time wore on and I was worried about having a gap. (i was patching together odd jobs to pay the bills). I was worried that having dog walking and part time nonsense on my resume would just dig me deeper into a hole, but I finally got my break. Here's what I learned:

This one is probably the biggest but also pretty abstract... open your mind to new opportunities. This isn't some "just be positive" thing, but it really does not serve you to put yourself in a box. Think outside the box and apply yourself to a new skill. Once you do, you'll start seeing opportunities everywhere. You'll be more open and aware of networking opportunities that present themselves (especially if this stuff doesn't come naturally to you). You'll run into an old friend at the grocery store who now works in this field you decided to pursue, and you're ready to take a leap, instead of feeling like "someday..."
Anyway I hope this helps someone. I know what it's like to be down and out, and I was really starting to lose hope and it was affecting my self worth, relationships, everything. Good luck and take care of yourself.
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2020.09.19 23:05 pog99 Alternative Hypothesis/ Ryan Faulk distorts South Africa under Apartheid.

Originally, my plan was to continue on with his article on Slavery in the United States. However, United Left, and some previous posts of mine, more or less already debunk the picture he paints in that article. I still plan to address though at a later date.
This article, perhaps even better than the last, show how thin Faulk's objectivity is. He opens and closes as if he was actually being holistic, but instead leaves a specimen blatant rationalization over a topic common among right-wing circles, the racial history and politics of South Africa. Lets not waste time.

The impact of European colonialism on the world is often described as being profoundly negative. The popular view is that Europeans came, stole resources, destroyed cultures, and committed mass murder all over the earth. By contrast, the prevailing view 100 years ago was that Europe was supplying the world with advanced institutions which they would not develop on their own and, in so doing, was civilizing the world.
Either of these theories might be true, and, to some extent, they both are. It is obviously correct that Europe took resources from places, killed some number of people, and ended various indigenous cultural practices. It is also obviously true that Europe set up various institutions, such as capitalism and democracy, in various parts of the world which had not developed these things on their own.
Does he think state control over, say, African labor during colonialism is Capitalism? Or that limiting Local chiefs from legislation such as in Colonial Nigeria is democracy?
A broad look at the empirical evidence suggests that European colonization helped most people more than it hurt them. Research has shown that the longer, or more heavily, a place was colonized by Europeans the richer it ended up being today (Eaverly and Levine, 2012; Feyrer and Sacerdote, 2006). Moreover, in the 20th century Africa, which is the center of much of the colonization debate, saw tremendous net gains in both wealth and population size (Manning, 2013; Roser; 2016)
Going through each of these, The Easterly study mainly looks at economic growth, and honestly doesn't suffice to explain the specific of African colonial experience in that regard. The second study notes how specific conditions of colonialism influences growth, while the two figures on African population growth shows this to be particularly so in the Post colonial era. Few would consider the first decades of African independence to be embodied by these numbers.
Here's an actual balanced set of studies and explanation on Colonialism in Africa.
I find this broad view compelling, but discussions on colonialism are rarely about the broad view. Instead, people like to talk about the anecdotal experiences of particular countries at particular times, and no anecdote is more often talked about than South African apartheid.
In this article, I will examine the history of South Africa as a case study in European colonialism.
Correction: You will gloss over it in a way that reflects your political biases.
Black Origins
The earliest people known to have occupied South Africa were a type of African called Khosians. Khosians are not the group of people most people think of when they think of Black South Africans. Those are Bantus. Bantu Africans and Khosians Africans look different, traditionally spoke different languages, and lived different sorts of lives. If we turned the clock back 4 thousand years, we would find that the southern half of the African continent was almost entirely inhabited by Khosians.
Some time roughly 3,000 years ago, Bantu Africans began expanding out of eastern and central Africa. As they expanded, they displaced many of the African peoples who had previously lived there. The degree to which this expansion occurred via violence, disease, out breeding, or other means, is unknown.
By 1,000 AD, the Bantu had reached most of South Africa. However, most of the people there were still Khosians. When the Portuguese arrived in South Africa in the 1400’s, they encountered very few Bantu.
As the Bantu expanded, they divided into tribes which then went to war with one another over land. In several African nations, a specific Bantu tribe came to dominate the others and then set up an empire. This occurred in South Africa as well. In the 1810’s and 1820’s, the Zulus conquered many neighboring African tribes and formed the Zulu empire. This empire went on to last almost until South Africa was entirely under White rule.
So a few things worth mentioning, that by 1000 AD, the current trends in a predominately Bantu Eastern half and a predominately Khoisan Western Half was already established.

The Rise of apartheid
While the South African government did not obtain independence from Britain until 1948, the beginnings of Apartheid can be traced back to the land act of 1913. This law made it illegal for Whites to sell land to Blacks and vice versa. By this point, Whites had already conquered or purchased the vast majority of South African land and this law was designed to make sure that this would not change.
Between this time and the 1960’s, the Apartheid government passed many laws which further segregated the races. For instance, inter-racial marriage was banned.
The most often talked about policy of South Africa was the creation of the Bantustans. These were designated “homelands” for Black South Africans. The Apartheid government forcibly moved millions of Blacks from multi-racial areas of South Africa into these Bantustans.
As explained in the report of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission, the people who established the Bantustans gave the following rational for their motives:
“NP politicians portrayed the homelands as a moral response to South Africa’s ‘multi-national’ reality. Apartheid theorists believed that South Africa was a country containing a number of nations, each developed to a greater or lesser degree. Freedom, they posited, could be realized only by providing the opportunity for each of these nations to exist and develop along its own lines.”
However, critics are quick to point out that the Bantustans consisted of less than a quarter of South Africa’s land even though Blacks made up an overwhelming majority of the nation’s population.
Bantustans also suffered from tremendous poverty. As the Encyclopedia of Britiannia explains:
“The Bantustans were rural, impoverished, underindustrialized, and reliant on subsidies from the South African government.The original hope of the designers of the Bantustan system was that industries would be established along the Bantustan borders to utilize the cheap labour available nearby, but for the most part these hopes went unrealized. Other initiatives to create the illusion of viable economies for the Bantustans also broke down. To the end they were heavily dependent on financial aid supplied by the South African government. Poverty remained acute in the Bantustans, and child mortality rates were extremely high. Despite draconian control of where people were allowed to farm and the number of cattle they were permitted to have, Bantustan lands were oversettled, overgrazed, and hence afflicted with serious soil erosion.”
So far so good. Of course, for this to be an article by Faulk, things would have to sharply turn downward.
The Net Economic Impact of Bantustans
Such critics rarely mention the fact that as can be seen, in 1960, Black South Africans were exactly as poor as Sub-Saharan Africans generally were. By 1980 they were far richer (1).
Given this, it does not seem fair to say, as some people do, that Bantustans caused Blacks to be poor. Prior to being forced into these areas, Black South Africans were just as poor as Sub-Saharan Africans generally were. Had Black South Africans been left totally alone, there is no reason to think that they would have become any richer than the rest of Sub-Saharan Africa let alone richer than they were under Apartheid. The land in Bantustans may have been bad. But this, evidently, was more than made up for by payments from the South African government.
The economic strain caused by the nature of the Bantustans is basically uncontested by actual experts as far as I know. The basis being that the clearly linked demographic disasters linked to their design have been established but ignored by the government since their early existence through the Tomlinson report and previous studies calling for reform.
Voerwerd refusing to spend the recommended budget to actually achieve independence as oppose to partial dependence for black labour, as well as the future migration to urban areas fueled by the increasingly poor conditions, suggest whatever aid given to the homelands were far from sufficient in any meaningful sense.
Height data suggests Living standards indeed deteriorated with the onset of particular labour exploitation events and that future improvements were linked to being apartheid of the same economic benefits that white South Africans were apart of. This would've been undermined had Apartheid not inadvertently fueled migration into white urban areas and new urban areas surrounding the homelands close to white populations.
Thus, whatever growth seen between Apartheid, which eventually became economically weakened from the 1970s to the 1980s, would be in spite of the laws imposed.
See here fore an overview on the arbitrary decision, poor conditions, and deceiving nature of Homeland "independence".

In conjunction with these external pressures, domestic terrorism was rapidly rising in South Africa during this time period. Following the incident in Sharpville, members of the ANC, the leading Black political party in South Africa, formed a military wing called the MK. Among its founders was Nelson Mandela, who was famously thrown in prison in 1962 for committing various acts of terrorism against the South African government.
The most famous incident of said terrorism perpetrated by the MK was the Church Street Bombing of 1983. This attack consisted of a car bomb being set off in the middle of the day on a busy street. 19 people were killed and over 200 were wounded. 📷
This is but one example from a list of many similar terrorist attacks that occurred, mostly in the 1980’s. During this time, the MK also gained a reputation for torturing prisoners.
On top of all this, in 1989 the South African president suffered a stroke that caused him to resign from office. F.W. De Klerk took his place after being elected by congress and was then re-elected by the electoral college.
De Klerk eliminated as many of the Apartheid laws as he could and, after freeing Nelson Mandela, entered into negotiations to end Apartheid.
Following the announcement of these negotiations, De Klerk’s party, the National Party, lost a national election to the pro apartheid Conservative Party. This was taken to indicate that the (White) people of South Africa did not want Apartheid to end and so De Klerk decided to hold a national referendum on whether or not to continue his negotiations to end apartheid.
The referendum was conducted in 1992 and the public was taken to have voted to end Apartheid. However, the referendum has been heavily criticized on several grounds. First, the South African government owned the media and this meant that the public only got a biased presentation of one viewpoint (Schonteich et al., 2003). Secondly, western powers were expected to plunge South Africa into a recession if they voted no (Wren, 1993). Thirdly, serious accusations of voter fraud have been made. Regardless, the negotiations continued and in 1994 Apartheid was ended.
Some Whites tried to resist the vote by setting up smaller areas of White control, but such efforts largely subsided after several Whites were executed on live TV by Black police officers. As one author wrote:
“the sight of three wounded AWB men pleading for their lives on live television and then shot in cold blood [by black policemen] had a powerful impact on the country’s Whites.”
Following the end of Apartheid, Nelson Mandela was elected president of the new South African government.
So there's an impression left here that'll pick up on later, but to give you a hint, Faulk doesn't tell you exactly who the executed whites were.
National Success Since Apartheid
Unfortunately, since Apartheid ended South Africa has declined on many metrics of national health.
Under apartheid GDP per capita usually grew roughly in sync with the rest of the World. This trend began to collapse in the 1980’s following the introduction of sanctions against the country. After apartheid ended, GDP per capita not only stagnated but, in fact, fell such that South Africans were poorer in 2002 than they were in 1982.
World Bank
Of course what it also shows is an eventual recovery.
In 1980, South Africa has an unemployment rate of 9.8% (Murwirapachena et al., 2013). By 2002, that figure had risen to 30.4%, and in 2014 it was still nearly 3 times as high as it was in 1980 (Murwirapachena et al., 2013; World Bank) .
What he doesn't show is this disparity occurring before Apartheid ended, almost 10 years prior in fact.
Under Apartheid, South Africa had a longer average life expectancy than Sub-Saharan Africa generally did. Since Apartheid ended, life expectancy has stagnated and fallen such that life expectancy was almost 10 years higher in 1992 than it was in 2002.
World Bank
Like the GDP, it saw a recovery.
Murder rates in South Africa began to rise in the 1970’s. Given the national turmoil of this time period, an increase in crime is unfortunate but not surprising. Perhaps less obvious, however, is the fact that murder rates exploded following the end of apartheid. As can be seen, this has disproportionately impacted Whites.
(Thompson, 2004)
That is actually not supported by the data. Coloreds in South Africa make up roughly the same percentage as whites, yet their victimizations are night and day. That's actually the point of the study.
These declines have not just impacted White South Africans. The wealth gap between Blacks and Whites in South Africa was slightly lower under Apartheid than it is today.
📷(Leibbrandt et al., 2012)
This, taken in conjunction with the fact that GDP growth has slowed since Apartheid ended, implies that both Blacks and Whites in south Africa would likely be richer today if Apartheid were still in place.
Moreover, Black South Africans reported feeling less happy and less satisfied with their lives in 2008 than they did in the early 1980’s.
📷(Moller, 1998; Gaibie and Davids, 2009)
📷(Moller, 1998; Gaibie and Davids, 2009)
Thus, it seems that the economic, physical, and psychological health of South Africa has gotten worse since Apartheid ended.
The 1980s, mind you, being Apartheid at it's economical weakest compared to previous decades, going towards the trend of less government restrictions.
Kill the Boers
Anti-White racism has also risen since Apartheid ended. Today, there is a wave of mass murder being waged against the descendants of the Boers.This is how the situation was described by the president of Genocide Watch:
“Afrikaner farm owners are being murdered at a rate four times the murder rate of other South Africans, including Black farm owners. Their families are also subjected to extremely high crime rates, including murder, rape, mutilation and torture of the victims. South African police fail to investigate or solve many of these murders, which are carried out by organized gangs, often armed with weapons that police have previously confiscated. The racial character of the killing is covered up by a SA government order prohibiting police from reporting murders by race. Instead the crisis is denied and the murders are dismissed as ordinary crime, ignoring the frequent mutilation of the victims’ bodies, a sure sign that these are hate crimes*.*However, independent researchers have compiled accurate statistics demonstrating convincingly that murders among White farm owners occur at a rate of 97 per 100,000 per year, compared to 31 per 100,000 per year in the entire South African population, making the murder rate of White SA farmers one of the highest murder rates in the world.” Leon Parkin & Gregory H. Stanton, President – Genocide Watch14 August 2012
These murders are not only common place, they are also gruesome. Attie Potgieter was stabbed over 150 times while his wife and daughter, who were later executed, were made to watch.
Dr. Louis John Botha was thrown into a crocodile pit and eaten alive.
As a final example, consider the Viana family. The father and daughter were shot, the mother was raped and killed, and the son was drowned to death in a bath of boiling water.
These murders reflect a more general anti-White sentiment which is ubiquitous in South Africa. Even leaders of the ANC, the party now in charge of the South African government, literally sang songs about killing White people as recently as 2012.
“South Africa’s ruling party on Tuesday defended the singing of an apartheid-era song with the words “Kill the Boer” in a row that has raised fears of increasing racial polarisation.” – Govender (2010)
White South Africans are also discriminated against by various South African institutions in order to make up for the damage that Apartheid institutions are thought to have done to Blacks.
First, there is discrimination in University admissions. Consider, for instance, this report on the University of Cape Town:
“The way in which the university has achieved this diversity, however, is somewhat controversial. To be admitted, white students must score the equivalent of straight A’s. Meanwhile, black and mixed-race students can get in with plenty of B’s. The University of Cape Town doesn’t make this policy a secret — admission cutoffs are listed by race in the prospectus.” – Kelto (2011)
Employers are encourage by the state to discriminate against Whites as well. The Black Economic Empowerment law set up the following point system in the country:
“Points are based on the percentage of blacks and other non-white ethnic groups in the company’s ownership and the skills training it gives to people in these groups. For companies, having a good BEE scorecard is often essential for business. The higher the BEE score they have, the more access they get to public markets and contracts.” – Iob (2013)
Finally, in may of this year South Africa passed the “land expropriation bill” which allows the government to force White South Africans to sell their land to the government at a price that the government decides. The rational behind this law is that it can undue the redistribution of land into the hands of whites which was solidified by the Land Act of 1913.
These factors have led White South Africans to abandon South Africa in large numbers. Since Apartheid ended, over half a million White South Africans have left the country. To put that in perspective, there are less than 5 million Whites in the whole country.
Some White South Africans are unable to emigrate on their own and are asking Western nations for Refugee status. The Canadian government has recently acquiesced to this request and allowed two White South Africans to come to Canada as refugees.
“31-year-old Brandon Huntley from Cape Town said he was constantly called a “white dog” and “settler” by Black South Africans back home. He was also robbed 7 times and stabbed three times by Black South Africans since his home country ended Apartheid in 1994. “There’s a hatred of what we did to them and it’s all about the color of your skin,” Huntley told the Canadian Immigration and Refugee Board.The evidence Huntley provided showed “a picture of indifference and inability or unwillingness of the South African government to protect White South Africans from persecution by African South Africans,” Board Chairman William Davis said.” –
White South Africans are also asking for refugee status from the EU which, in recent years, has allowed tens of thousands of middle eastern and African refugees to cross its borders.
I won't sugarcoat the the economic and social issues of whites currently in South Africa. The problem is, aside from the victimization of Afrikaners (farmers specifically) by murders, the general economic position of whites in South Africa hasn't changed.
As for white emigration, his figure combines the total number of whites (roughly 300k) that have left between 1986 (that is before apartheid fell) and 2000, and roughly 300k between 2000-2015.
Overall, the white population only slightly shrank between 1980 and 2015.

If conquest is not a legitimate means to acquire land, the Zulu and similar Bantu tributes did not justly own South African land, nor did any other tribe of the last few hundred years. After all, this land was conquered from Khoisan and older Bantu tribes.
Moreover, if the Zulu did steal the land, it is not clear that Apartheid was in the wrong for taking it from them. Is it wrong to steal something which is stolen from the thief who stole it?
If, on the other hand, conquest is a valid way to acquire land, then White South Africans had a perfectly legitimate claim on it. This might be taken to imply that there is also nothing wrong with modern Black South Africans taking land from Whites. However, conquering land via war is not the same thing as using a false political narrative about the supposed negative effects of apartheid to take land. Moreover, forcing White people into a society that hates and mass murders them is not analogous to putting Blacks in bantustans which, as we have seen, were not as bad as they are often made out to be.
I consider the morality of conquest to be a difficult question and I won’t try to resolve it here. What I will say is that it is very hard to come up with any principled moral answer which would justify the totality of what is being done to White South Africans.
Where to begin?
  1. Assuming the validity of the right of conquest, that only applies to the right to claim land or wield power over it. That doesn't exempt moral considerations on particular acts directed towards the previous occupiers. That is, if the Zulu Empire lead to the displacement and abuse of other groups like the Khoisan, then they can be morally judged on those grounds. Same can be easily said for victims of the Anglo-Boer wars under concentration camps.
  2. "White South Africans" didn't conquer Bantu lands leading to their annexation, it was the British specifically. Boers more so are responsible for the displacement of the Khoisan in the Western Cape.
  3. "Forced Removals" weren't the direct result of being conquered, annexation was. Forced removals, then, can be viewed as a separate act apart of conquest from war and as a decision by an already formed government. It was these laws that form the basis of land claims, not British colonization in and of itself.
  4. There is noting "false" that was validly demonstrated regarding the effect of Bantustans had on the black population. Nor were the Bantustans "not that bad", as most moved out by 1986.
Political Violence
Another important question is whether or not the political violence initiated by the MK against White South Africans was justified.
Apartheid set up various laws, some of which I would consider unjust. Most importantly, Apartheid severely restricted the right of Blacks to protest. This was the justification that Mandela used for resorting to violence. He had no other choice.
This may be true, and if you think that apartheid’s policies were sufficiently horrible this may justify violence, but there is no way that the indiscriminate violence against innocent and random White south Africans that the MK engaged in can be justified. Their activities, especially in the 1980’s, were morally equivalent to any other act of mass murder.
Further more, as we have seen, Apartheid’s actions were not nearly as bad as they are often thought to have been.
This is what I was alluding to earlier, that terrorism among the Anti-Apartheid movement was directed towards whites mostly. While there were indeed anti-white motivation fueling the movement, the overwhelming majority were black. See here for an understanding.
This whole section is a strawman.
Evaluating Apartheid
Even if Apartheid improved the material and psychological conditions of Black Africans,
It didn't. De facto economic integration efforts was what lead to observed improvements.
On the other hand, the material benefit that Whites brought to South Africa, and Africa generally, was truly immense. Were it not for colonialism, most Africans alive today would have never even been born.
In South Africa, that population growth came from a reaction of concentrated poverty, not wealth.
Fundamentally, the problem of African colonialism is the problem of multi-racialism. So long as Whites allowed Blacks to continue to live in Africa, which could have only been prevented with a massive and horrific genocide, Black Africans were going to resent them.
Except in Botswana, and to a lesser extent Namibia. Both with significantly different approaches to race relations.
As Apartheid shows us, this is true even if the Whites improve the conditions of the Blacks. There will always been a feeling that Whites do not belong there and Blacks will always resent the invariably superior material conditions of Whites.
Probably because many were removed from and forced away from Urban living.
Colonialism of the United States only worked because there aren’t many Indians around anymore.
I get the feeling this is part of his Bitchute video on the topic.
The kind of colonialism practiced in Africa in which Whites would be permanent but ruling minorities in a majority Black nation was never sustainable without an uncomfortable measure of totalitarianism and even then ethnic conflict was still common place.
Again Botswana.
The violence surrounding colonialism was rarely, if ever, one sided. Today, there is a massive level of systemic racism against White South Africans. The fact that this racism is not covered in Western media offers a stark contrast with how the media covered the sins of Apartheid.
The sources of the farm murders and affirmative actions were News24, a relatively left leaning SA news source, NPR, Reuters, Voice of America and the Dailymail. Only one source was an "alternative one", which reported the murder a whole year after News24 did and relied on a mainstream Afrikaner-news report.
These get attention by "Western media".
Overall, the problems of South Africa, both in terms of Blacks resenting their White rulers under Apartheid and Whites experiencing racism today, come from the inherent difficulties of having a multi-racial society. In this sense, the story of South Africa contains lessons not only about colonialism but also about more general and pressing questions of immigration and diversity.
Or, you know, what happens when you don't consider the role of Black Africans in your government, unlike Botswana.
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2020.09.19 22:51 BodyRiddle37 Insecurity dating FSSW

This is a repost/copy paste from the sw subreddit so apologies. Taking the advice to post here as well.
I’ve been dating a fs sex worker for a few months only. We met while she was working and there was instant sparks. Without going into the nitty gritty we met at a brothel prior to her becoming an independent escort. She no longer does brothel work but private bookings only. I am in love with her and she knows, and I believe she feels the same about me. With covid she has not been working except for a very few regulars doing in calls. I have no judgment towards her or her work and I’m not trying to “save” her or anything like that. We met on the job and it would be naive and insulting of me to ask her to stop or consider changing her work. I did a lot of reading on different forums and spoke to my psychologist prior to pursuing her from a relationship stand point to check if I can handle mentally and so I can watch my words carefully and am understood and understanding. I consider myself very open emotionally and in communicating. We have set a precedent to have open dialogue and I have asked her many questions and she has been open to answer and encouraged me to ask her anything. I have had everything I asked answered at the time and we continue to talk. I have had to drop her home a couple of times from her staying at my place so she could meet clients. I found this immensely upsetting but we spoke about it after and I explained why. I am from a “traditional” background and even though majority of those beliefs and “morals” are not shared by me as an adult, they are hard to overcome from a childhood imprint point of view. Having weekly psychologist meetings has helped. Lately though I find myself wondering or thinking how she is with clients. I made the mistake of looking at her profile on one of the booking sites and reading the testimonials. These are all before we started dating but I have mixed feelings about other men raving about her and promising to book again. I should maybe feel pleased that she is a professional of high standing and is wanted. Logically I know that when we are together it is different and she enjoys herself. Clients are work. She chooses to come home to me and share her problems and dreams with me. We have spoken about her adoption of the escort persona and that this is not the real her. I understand she sells a fantasy. In fact the woman presented in her professional images only resemble the beautiful and amazing woman I know and see every day. Any issues and feelings I have are my own to deal with but I am concerned that if they grow into jealousy it will be poison to our relationship. I have never met anyone like her before and I love her dearly. Are there others out there who are or have been in a similar situation? How do you banish these poisonous thoughts and concentrate on all the positives that she brings into my life?
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2020.09.19 22:45 flesjewater1 Noob question about inca

So ingame the kamayuk description says "strong vs cavalry and infantry", so I assume this means atk bonus vs both. Yet when I read on the fandom wiki it says this: they should be used in conjunction with Slingers to protect them from infantry.

Is this site out of date or am I misunderstanding something?
PS: is there a discord or something where you can ask these quick noob questions live?
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2020.09.19 22:44 Minervator Convince me not to "use"

I just had a therapy session where I told her I engage in unprotected sex, get blackout drunk, spend countless hours on dating sites, find life generally boring/unpleasant, etc. and her response was to do a meditation for my "thrill-seeking behaviour." I don't see that helping me much but I also am super depressed and anxious about my life. Can any recovering addicts convince me not to do these things or help me figure out what to do?
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2020.09.19 22:32 sergio1525 Ball python not eating

My snake hasn’t ate in like 2 1/2 - 3 months. I’ve had this problem last year but it only lasted 2 months. This time since it’s happening again and longer I figured I’d get some other ideas from people on what’s going on or what I could do.
Enclosure type/material (tank, tub, PVC, wood, etc): Tank
Dimensions (length x width x height): 36x18x12
If you have a tank, have you modified it in any way (ex., covering part of the screen or adding insulation)? No
Approximately how many square inches of ventilation total? ?
Heat sources (type, wattage if relevant, and location in enclosure): Under tank heating pad
Thermostats (for each heat source): ? Thermometers and hygrometers (digital or analog, probe or ambient, location in enclosure): Right side (cooler side)
Temperatures (ambient and floor, warm side and cool side): 75-90 (higher number obviously on warmer side) Humidity range (measured on cool side): 60
Are you using any type of humidifier, fogger, or mister? No
Hides (number, type, size relative to the snake): 2
Substrate (type, depth, dry or damp): Coconut fiber, misted with water in mornings
Lights (type and on/off schedule): Heating light shut off around 6pm
Photos (upload to an image hosting site and post the link here):
Feeding Advice Please begin by filling out the Enclosure Critique questionnaire, then provide the following additional information:
How long have you had the snake? 2 1/2 years
Date of the last successful feeding: Don’t know maybe 2-3 months ago
Snake's age: Almost 3 years
Snake's current weight (in grams): 1800 grams
How much weight has the snake lost, if any, since the last successful feeding?
Not sure didn’t weigh it much prior doesn’t look that much smaller
Prey species: Rats
Prey weight (in grams): Medium-large rats
Frozen/thawed, pre-killed, or live? Frozen/thawed and live
If frozen/thawed, please describe your thawing/warming methods: Warm water for 30 minutes or more
Are you feeding inside the enclosure, or in a separate area? Inside
How frequently are you offering food? Normally every other week. Since it hasn’t ate In a while I try weekly
How frequently are you handling your snake? How long is a typical handling session? It varies I try to do it weekly for at least 30 minutes but it don’t always happen
Please describe your typical feeding routine. Include details such as time of day, how food is offered (dangled by hand/tongs, or left alone with the snake), how long you wait before giving up, light and noise levels in the room, etc. Always fed typically late afternoon. Food is dangled with tongs. If not ate within 5 minutes or so I typically leave it. If frozen/thawed I’ll leave it for like an hour. If a live rat I’ll watch it carefully for 15-20 minutes then take it out in case it try’s to harm the snake. Never much noise in the room and the light levels are typically dim
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2020.09.19 22:17 patrickbio75 As a current college student, should I list my highest completed education as high school? Applying for some food service type jobs right now, and while some sites/applications offer the option to enter graduation date, they are most generically asking for most recently completed education.

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2020.09.19 22:17 Sea2Chi Some character backstories for Tomb Of Annihilation

I'm getting ready to start the Tomb of Annihilation module soon and the DM recommended we all make 5 characters since there's a high likelihood of death. Particularly for me since I roll more crit fails than should be statistically possible. Normally for character creation, I get good and drunk on scotch and bang out 6-10 pages of backstory outlining my character's past and motivations. This time I decided instead to try to limit the backstories to less than a page since I was going to make five of them. That worked great until I got high and wrote the human druid's story.
I thought I would share a couple of the ones I came up with.
Grumpy Bear
Awoken Bear Sorcerer
I wish I could tell you my first thoughts upon Awakening were something noble or wise. I'd been following the old woman through the forest for five days at that point. Normally wood elves are frustratingly difficult to track. But this one carried with her large quantities of spirits which she imbibed heavily in the evenings making her stench easy to follow. Every night as I would catch up to her I would find a treat waiting for me just outside her campsite. The offerings often left me sleepy and I would awake the following morning with the old wood elf nowhere to be found.
The evening of the 5th day went as the others had, she was drinking from a jug and I was waiting and watching with a grumbling stomach for my treat to be set out. It was the distraction of hunger that caused me not to be aware of the mountain lion in the tree above her until it was practically on the old woman. As the beast slammed her frail frame down against the soil, I remember feeling rather than hearing a voice call out to me. "Friend, please, help me!"
I was already in full sprint 20 feet from the large cat when it looked up from its prey. It hardly had time to react before a swipe from my huge paw sent it spiraling through the air and into a tree, shattering its spine.
If the old wood elf had chosen to reach out to my mind to read my thoughts, I doubt she would have picked that moment to awaken me. I'm certain that she wouldn't have also bestowed the ability to cast sorcery and magic upon me. If that hadn't occurred then we never would have traveled together until her death, and I would still be happily living in the forest, blissfully unaware of higher consciousness.
As I said before, I wish my first conscious thoughts were something noble or wise, but I was and still am an apex predator, king of my domain. My first thoughts I can remember were "Fuck you kitty, that's MY dinner."
Captain Tor-Drogn
Aarakocra Warlock
So, I heard you dirt kicking flightless fucks want to hire me? Well, my friends call me Preda, but you can call me Captain Tor-Drogn. Whether you need close air support or an eye in the sky I'm your woman. I was a flight commander with the Aarakocra Jolly Rogers before Junco Hyemalis caused an accident that killed my wingman, Esoog. After that, the ratshit brass tried to ground me for being too reckless. So I decided to do what any good flyer would in that situation and took my talents to the private sector. As I'm sure you're well aware, these merc companies will pay top coin for experienced Aarakocra warlock passing them recon, particularly when she can also eldritch blast someone's face off from 250 feet up. Outnumbered and in need of a distraction before the battle? I'll swoop in inverted and light their whole god damn camp on fire before the hostiles can pull their dicks out of whatever hole in the ground they're copulating with. I am a night flying, speed queen, killing machine. You want the best? You're looking at her. I am dangerous, motherclucker.
That said, until someone conjures up a tavern in the sky, I still have to come down to walk with you mud monkeys occasionally. After all, what's the point of earning your coin if I'm not going to use it. With death waiting behind every cloud there's no sense in buying material things, it's better to spend it all and live like there's no tomorrow. So I say fuck it, drinks are on me, Party Falcon for life.
But make no mistake, while I love my leave on the ground, I'm not really happy unless I'm going mach 2 with my feathers on fire. And with PATRON TO BE DETERMINED watching my 6 in the sky, you can bet your ass that it's worth every gold piece I charge to have me on your side.
So show me the coin, give me the target's coordinates and get the hell out of the AO.
Sir Buttercup
Gnome Barbarian
Sir Buttercup was not a normal gnome.
While his neighbors in the happy forest spent their days dancing and playing Sir Buttercup was different. He did not frolic, he did not sing, he did not toss flowers into the air and collapse in a fit of giggles onto a toadstool.
No, Sir Buttercup trained. Day in, day out. It often seemed that his only friend was his ever-present battle axe. A weapon he'd pulled from the hands of his first kill when he was still a spry 40 years old. That was the last time a goblin had attempted to raid Happy Village. From that day on Sir Buttercup vowed to never allow his village to come to harm again. So he trained and trained and trained. He trained so hard the other gnomes began to worry. They tried to convince him to train less and giggle more, they organized parties in his cottage, they set him up on dates with the female gnome, they even staged an intervention which quickly devolved into a singalong about how much they all loved Sir Buttercup and worried about his mental wellbeing. None of it worked, all their efforts only seemed to make Sir Buttercup angrier and more determined than ever to become a great warrior. He began fashioning a suit of armor out of discarded items found on an ancient battle site several days walk away. He redoubled his training and could often be seen carrying rocks far heavier than himself in a backpack as he jogged up and down the hills surrounding the Happy Village. For the first time in a long while, the forest gnomes of the Happy Village nestled in the Happy Forest Valley were actually growing concerned about one of their own.
One day, a young wolf wandered into the village. The elders quickly ordered everyone inside and barred the doors. Wolf sightings were not terribly common but could be quite dangerous to a Gnome caught in the open. However, ordinarily, the wild creatures of the forest would move along voluntarily after one of the elders spoke to them. With a hushed tone and twinkle in their eye, they would explain that this was the gnome's home and they wished to be left in peace. Many of the forest creatures even ended up on friendly terms with the gnomes, bringing their babies around to introduce them to the elders and receive blessings when the spring flowers bloomed. After everyone was safely indoors the elders began to make preparations to speak with the wolf who had been last seen sniffing around the cookie warehouse.
Nothing could have prepared them for what they saw when they opened the doors of Happy Hall.
Blood everywhere. Blood on the cookie warehouse, blood on the singing stage, blood on the merry go round and blood all over the Happy Village town square which had been festooned with ribbons and bows in preparation for the 539th annual Happy Village happy neighbors festival. In the middle of it all lay the body of the wolf. Although, on second glance the elders realized it was only the torso of the wolf. For after surveying the horrific scene, one leg could be spotted near the kissing well, another near the maypole, the bushy tail was seen resting on top of the statue of Bobbins McFriendly and the rear feet would later be found on the roof of Giggleroots alehouse. The head however was in plain view, Sir Buttercup was hard at work with his axe carving it out to use as a fearsome decoration for the top of his steel helmet.
The gnomes had had enough. "GET THE FUCK OUT!!!" they shouted at the confused Sir Buttercup. Such language had not been used in Happy Village for as long as any gnome could remember, but all agreed that given the almost improbable amount of blood covering their formerly cheery hamlet it was duly warranted.
"I was only trying to protect you!" Sir Buttercup yelled back."We'll see who's giggling when a troll finds this place and eats all of you!"
Banishment wasn't going to be easy for Sir Buttercup, and neither was rising all that wolf blood out of his armor.
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2020.09.19 22:15 LeonSchuring93 Share your Fallout 3 100% completion stats, here is my Xbox360 run first (no video yet though)!!

So I wanted to share my Fallout 4 100% completion list, after a short search I saw nobody has done this before. And unlike (a site where you can upload your character in order to compare scores on a leaderboard), there unfortunately is NO such site for Fallout games. I just added my fallout 4 100% completion list here:
Now I will share my Fallout 3 100& completion character stats here.
So once again: I did ALL quests, and I just checked the Fallout Wiki extensively for if I got every unique item: weapon, armor, clothing, achievement, bobblehead, consumable, holodisk and note, key, magazine and even misc item. I also got every non-SPECIAL perk and random encounter. I off course have all DLC, and I upgraded my Megaton to my own satisfaction. I have a very good karma character, got every good karma companion as a result and searched every nook and cranny of all maps (all locations of DLC, cleared all of them). I finished with declining President John Henry Eden´s offer for the Purifier, and helped the BoS destroy the Enclave mobile base crawler.
Time played: 331 hours.
Name: Albert (I kept him standard in appearance too)
Level: 30
Date: 09.27.78 (406 days; since traveling back and forth to Point Lookout adds 30 in-game days play time is actually more like 346 days).
ALL SPECIAL 10, every skill level 100.
Not notified under here but I slept about 7-8 days every day (due to realism, next to eating/drinking), just like in my Fallout 4 playthrough (see above in link).
Difficulty played on: Very Hard
Now my pip-boy stats:
Might be something I forgot, but not sure! Please share your own character!!
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2020.09.19 21:58 ThrowRA1264 Mother in law keeps getting catfished and refuses to believe us.

Obviously a throw away account but I need some help here because my wife (29F) and me (29M) are going crazy over this.
My MIL (66F) has had 5 different men contact her over the last ~6 months all with stories which from first glance seem like a catfisher.
First guy worked on an oil rig and had terrible service so he couldn't call her, only message her. He would be visiting her shortly and they were going to then move to Sweden (we're located in the US, so we were quite in shock). I reverse imaged his picture and there he was under 3 different names on 3 different dating sites). She was very sad but believed it and stopped talking to him.
2 weeks later, another international businessman (from Portugal) who was going to just move with her to DC once he got back into the states. He ended up having mutiple Facebook accounts with the same name, all with friends only in Bangladesh. Very suspicious. As we try pulling her away, he sends a fake American passport photo (which she originally believed until I compared it to mine). After that she stopped talking to him too.
This happened two more times, with me having to do a good amount of googling, LinkedIn stalking, fb stalking and image lookups/looking at geotagging embedded in photo properties to show her these were fake.
There is now a new guy who is in the military apparently (another top choice for scammers) and she's trying to avoid sharing any details with us because she's probably nervous I'm going to figure out he's another catfisher.
What do I do in this situation? Therapist? Take her phone away (not very likely to work). I'm worried someone will scam her out of her retirement.
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2020.09.19 21:48 thinkam7 A Handy Guide on How to Approach a Girl, Start a Meaningful Conversation, and Ask Her Out with No Fear of Rejection

The Approach
My favorite way to approach is to offer a genuine compliment followed by a question. Your compliment should come from a place of love and kindness. Give the compliment freely without needing or expecting anything in return. Then ask a question:
“You have an incredibly energy about you. Do you practice yoga or meditation?”
“That’s a cute work outfit. Or is that just how you dress when you come to Walmart?”
My second favorite approach is to give a sincere compliment then expand on the compliment with more detail.
Tell her what you like and why you like it. Again, you’re not trying to impress her. You’re just being friendly and kind:
“I love that dress. Red is a beautiful color on you.”
“I like your top. That’s a beautiful shade of purple.”
By the way, feel free to compliment her on something she's wearing, her hair, her style in general, a tattoo, or her energy. Avoid complimenting her physical beauty.
A third option is to be direct:
“I literally just saw you over there and I had to come over and say hello.”
“I saw you over here and I knew if I didn’t come over and introduce myself, I’d never get a chance to meet you. My name is ___.”
The Conversation
I prefer to use whatever is going on in the moment as my topic of conversation. I under that isn’t very helpful so here are a few more practical topics of conversation…
Book Review:
Read a book or watch a movie on romance, relationships, love, or dating. Then tell her about it. Share your thoughts and ask her opinion. She’ll love it!
Tell Interesting Stories:
· Do interesting things so you have interesting stories to share.
· Talk about interesting facts.
· Tell her about the history of the city, town, area, or place you live.
· Travel the world to become more worldly and collect interesting stories.
· Take a class: Art, Dance, Improv, Acting, Comedy, Music, Foreign Language, etc.
· Stay up to date on current events. (Great for relating with men as well.)
· Stay up to date on recent weird stories.
· Be the person who knows shocking stories. Get stories from these sites: Google: ‘huffington post weird news’ and click the first result Google: ‘sky strange news’ and click the first result Google: ‘express news weird’ and click the first result
Ask Her Out
When it’s time to ask her out, do it! Don’t continue the conversation. How do you know when it’s time? If you can answer, “YES” to one or more of the following questions, it may be time:
· Is she doing something to make you more welcome?
· Is she touching you?
· Is she leaning closer to you?
· Is she touching her hair, face, or body?
· Is she responding to your touch? (Use touch as soon as possible during the conversation. Touch her arm, knee, hand, or the small of her back.)
When you’re ready to close, make eye contact and say Part 1 followed by Part 2 below:
Part 1: “I would like to get to know you better.”
Part 2: “I’m having party on Friday. You should come.” “I’m [doing this cool thing] on [date]. You should come.”
“But I need to get going. We should hang out again. What steps can we take to make sure we hang out again?”
“But I have to go. I’m late. How can we continue this conversation?”
Last but not least… FEAR
The best way to deal with fear is to remove it from your life. In fact, it’s entirely possible to rid yourself of every negative emotion. (fear, anxiety, worry, hate, anger, jealousy, sadness)
Here’s how:
When you feel a negative emotion, instead of ignoring or suppressing the feeling, allow yourself to feel the emotion completely - until it goes away on its own.
Negative feelings can't stand the clear light of awareness. So give the feeling your undivided attention.
Let the feeling rise up, expand, and dissipate.
From now on, whenever you experience a negative emotion, allow yourself to feel it, as fully as you can, until the feeling completely goes away on its own.
If you would like more information on how to release negative emotions, here are a few resources:
‘The Abundance Book’ by Lawrence Crane ‘The Sedona Method’ by Hale Dwoskin ‘The Untethered Soul’ by Michael Singer
I hope this helps. If you have questions please comment below. I’m happy to help.
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